Do break ups remind us of who we really are?

In reflection over time, I wonder when relationships come to an end, how any individual feels after. I mean, we look back over what was and what is...

As a result of a break up, do they remind us all of who we really are? Perhaps the anticipation before a break up is our minds wondering who we are, who we really are without the other person-do we like ourselves just as self, without the other person? I hope relationships aren't just a cover of our insecurities, but willing to love. When someone we are involved with helps us so closely with particular issues, is it common for self to feel stronger once that support has gone-when you have chosen for it to go? People can't all become drugs. Who knows if that relationship was more so about a self development process instead of pure love. Just love. Were those two people taking a journey together ever OK with themselves?

In taking a step back and looking at just 'us', just one person for once and seeing clearly who we are too. The naked truth, our bare personalities only there in front of the mirror for one to judge. Us. Yourself. If we don't like ourselves, who will? So in ending a relationship, how much of that decision also connects to re-establishing ourselves and knowing we are OK with self too?

I hear many stories in feeling lonely after or feeling like one can finally do what they want to do. So why did they ever stay? Amongst all the good times shared with someone else, parallel to the insecurities reflected by both individuals-how much of that is truth, was the relationship a false being?

If life is all about growing, knowing and learning as well- I'm sure there is never a point in which we know we will be OK (and comfortable with self), as there will be forever change and new challenges before us. New insecurities are always possible. If ending a relationship gives us more self confidence and less fear whilst connecting with someone else-I hope this doesn't taint all future establishments. Relationships can't be all about holding you here for one moment, and not the next when it all gets too scary in loosing who you are, in forgetting who you are too-surely that's going to be a constant variable, inevitable until those insecurities change, whether they lessen or are dealt with. Otherwise, we are all doomed. If you are going to be there, you have to be there. No question.

People are drugs. But it is when you know you truly miss them, for them, their character, their waves, when you know it is love. Truth love. That is no drug, just a pure natural feeling. Break ups or breaks from people in general shouldn't be a test, hopefully we all would just know...